Honoring The Lost
Lessons From Those Who Lost Their Way
There are no gifts in grief. Some would say I am wrong, that losing a loved one teaches us lessons of impermanence and gives a unique perspective that adds value to life. Be that as it may, anyone who has ever lost someone would immediately throw such “gifts” aside if we could trade it for one more moment with them.
It is natural to love people while they are a physical part of our lives, and perhaps to try and love them even more once they are gone. There is a certain dissonance that rings in our heads and hearts as we extend love towards someone who is no longer here. But I won’t stop. None of us will ever stop loving; we will always remember because we never want to forget. And while I am not sure if a memory can be loved, I know it can be honored.
To honor the lost, we must allow their lives to forever change ours for the better. This means changing our behavior; how we think, speak, and act.
These loved ones are our teachers. Their lives show us the price of acting or not acting, of showing or lacking discipline. They remind us what to do or not do; who to be or not be.
Losing someone is a tragedy when they leave before they can receive the many…
